you know, i’m a raging lesbian and i was never distracted by what other girls in my classes were wearing in high school. this is a male problem, not an “attracted to women” problem.
This is an “inability to respect women” problem.
Which is a male problem.
When Aisha Tyler was selected to be the presenter for the 2012 Ubisoft E3 press conference, she received an unprecedented flood of hate from trolls who complained about the fact that she knew nothing about gaming. Too bad haters didn’t do their homework first, because as it turns out Aisha Tyler knows more about gaming that all of us put together. Her Facebook response was awesome and predictably went viral. In case you missed it, here’s her masterpiece. Haters, take note.
I’ve played since I was a little kid.
Since I begged my dad to buy me a Nintendo LCD Donkey Kong, Jr.
Since I blew through three weeks’ allowance playing Defender at the laundromat.
Since you were a twinge in the left side of your daddy’s underoos.
I’ve been a gamer since I made friends with a girl in the 5th grade just to get at her Atari.
Since I missed the bus playing Galaga after school.
Since I missed the start of Return of the Jedi playing Tempest in the theater lobby.
You think you know. You don’t know.
I’ve been a gamer since before you could read.
Since I aced midterms after staying up all night playing Evil Tetris.
Since I became dorm champ at Leisure Suit Larry.
Since I double-wielded on Time Crisis 3 at Fuddrucker’s.
I was a voice in not one, but two major video game titles.
I hosted the Reach Beta tutorial.
I was a Gears of War superfan panelist at ComicCon.
I hosted the Ubisoft presser at E3 2012.
I didn’t do any of it for the money.
For most I got paid next to nothing, and for some, less than that.
I did it because I love video games.
Because I’ve dreamt since I was a kid of being in one of the games I love.
How many games have you done voices for?
How many cons have you repped at?
Your buddy’s Unreal Tournament garage deathmatch doesn’t count.
I go to E3 each year because I love video games.
Because new titles still get me high.
Because I still love getting swag.
Love wearing my gamer pride on my sleeve.
People ask me what console I play.
Motherfucker, ALL of them.
I get invited to E3 because real gamers know I’m a gamer.
I don’t do it for the money.
I have plenty of money.
I don’t do it for the fame.
I do it because I love video games.
I don’t give out my gamertag because I don’t want a mess of noob jackholes lining up
to assassinate me on XBL.
I don’t give a shit what you think about my gamerscore.
I don’t play to prove a point.
I don’t play to be the best.
I play because I love it.
I’ve been playing my whole life.
I’m not ashamed of it.
I don’t apologize for it.
It’s who I am.
To the core.
I’m a gamer.
So to all the haters out there who claim I don’t play;
To the GAF dicks,
To every illiterate racist douchebag on Youtube:
Flame away. Go nuts.
Post every jackass comment your heart desires.
I’ll still be playing when your mom’s kicked you out of her basement
and you have to sell your old-ass console
and get a real job.
For now, I say to you respectfully,
and I mean this from the bottom of my heart,
It’s a monumental overask to expect women to be gentle with the egos of men who only feigned friendship in order to get laid.
Dear MRA’s of Tumblr and the University of North Texas,
I went to pick up my husband near the Willis Library today. As I pulled up near the curb to wait for him, I noticed this sign and my eyebrow raised. All I could see was the teaser text, but I knew I was in for a treat.
Upon closer inspection, the sign read:
MALE PRIVILAGE [sic] AN ISSUE? AN EVIL THAT NEEDS TO BE ABOLISHED?
Or simply a crutch of a battle cry to justify man hate [sic]. The gap between men and women in rights and wages closes every year. When maternity leave and stay at home moms are accounted for the gap between salaries is currently less than 10%.
Next time you hear someone complaining that a “dudes” [sic] night is inherently wrong, and is gender exclusion, remember they are the problem, not the solution.
(tiny text: Get the facts.)
Now, I was not terribly offended by this post. In fact, I was mostly amused. The poor spelling, bad grammar, and complete lack of any citation or source to back up their claims and their urge for us to “get the facts” made me laugh.
Yes, angry man yelling at straw-women: Feminism is definitely only a conversation about how “dudes nights” are exclusionary, and it’s THAT CONVERSATION that is the problem, not the dude nights (whatever the heck that is). Male privilege has no basis in reality whatsoever, because if you rule out stay at home moms and maternity leave (bad move, since maternity leave is the only justifaction for a wage gap I’ve seen somewhat convincingly argued, but I’ll allow it), the wage gap is only (white) women making 10% less than (white) men! That is completely acceptable and not at all privileged or discriminatory! Just stop complaining and it’ll get better on its own, laydeez! GET THE FACTS I JUST MADE UP!
Oh, I had a chuckle. But alas, the laughter ended. I noticed it was posted over a sign that was on other posts in the sidewalk. I ripped down the ridiculous poster and found the second flier underneath it.
What was funny became infuriating.
This ignorant little misogynist took his fallacious and citationless arguments, and posted it over a flier alerting people to a charity run to STOP HUMAN TRAFFICKING - an incredibly gendered and racially discriminatory practice that results in the deaths and suffering of countless women every year. Now, I know nothing about the organization behind this event, but I know that their URL was RescueHer, and it appears that the overall theme of the run was about women in subjugation, being sold as objects, being abused and murdered for pleasure. Also colors, or something.
This male supremacist silenced the voices of suffering women, who are in such a position due to archaic beliefs regarding the role and value of women, particularly WoC, in order to have an uneducated tantrum about being called privileged.
The irony here is more than painful - it is murderous.
This is such a perfect illustration of what MRA is about. Telling us to shut up, to stop whining, to stop being so dramatic about real disparities that exist in our country and abroad, and being willing to let women die for the MRA’s right to continue shouting over us.
It is obvious that the two offenders saw the victim as some one that could be treated as a thing. This is not about sex, it is about power and control. I guess that is what I am getting at. Sex was probably not the hardest thing for the two to get, so that wasn’t the objective. When you hear the jokes being made during the crime, it is the purest contempt.
So, how do you fix that? I’m just shooting rubber bands at the night sky but here are a few ideas: Put women’s studies in high school the curriculum from war heroes to politicians, writers, speakers, activists, revolutionaries and let young people understand that women have been kicking ass in high threat conditions for ages and they are worthy of respect.
Total sex ed in school. Learn how it all works. Learn what the definition of statutory rape is and that it is rape, that date rape is rape, that rape is rape.
In the spirit of equal time, sites like Huffington Post should have sections for male anatomy hanging out instead of just the idiotic celebrity “side boob” and “nip slip” camera ops. I have no idea what that would be like to have a camera in my face at every turn, looking for “the” shot. I know what some of you are saying. “Then why do they wear clothes like that unless they want those photos taken?” I don’t know what to tell ya. Perhaps just don’t take the fuckin picture? Evolve? I don’t know.Henry Rollins, Dispatch 03-17-13 Los Angeles (via albinwonderland)
Lewis’s Law (coined by journalist Helen Lewis) holds that ‘the comments on any article about feminism justify feminism’.
I love this so much! Am now adopting “Lewis’s Law” into my writing and speech forever more!
Oh fuck, that’s accurate
To be blunt, men who rape women do so for the same reason that boys who torture cats do so: Because they’ve been raised to believe that dominating others makes you a big, tough man, and they take pleasure in exerting power over this being they’ve been taught is beneath them. Most boys don’t torture animals, but we aren’t confused about those who do. Even if they do find some kind of visceral satisfaction from it, we don’t think they’re confused and simply think they’re, say, preparing a meal. When boys torture animals in groups, we know that there was probably a ringleader who used pressure to “be a man” to get the other boys to go along with it. We also know some boys torture animals in secret, taking pleasure in the conquest of these animals. If you understand why boys torture animals, you understand why teenage boys and men rape. The same codes of masculinity and sadism are underlying the behavior, and I’m guessing the overlap between the two behaviors is really high, with a lot of youthful animal torturers growing up to become sexual predators who get a thrill out of conquering women, especially considering how much more cunning you need to dominate and control a woman than an animal.
By Amanda Marcotte
Monday, March 25, 2013 9:54 EDT
Why do we have an abortion rate 20% higher than France’s (and more than twice as high as Germany’s), especially considering most doctors here won’t perform them? The answer is any country that has universal health care, where contraception is free, where child care is free or inexpensive, where there is less poverty because people don’t become bankrupt over medical bills — those societies are simply going to have fewer unplanned and unwanted pregnancies.
And there the mask gets pulled off the Bart Stupaks and the “Christians.” If the statistics show that countries with government-provided universal health care and nearly-free abortions are, in fact, the countries with the fewest abortions, then why on earth wouldn’t the Right be the first in line to support universal health care?
Because it isn’t about “universal health care.” It’s about controlling women, period. It’s about sticking your nose in other people’s business. It’s about pushing your religious beliefs on everyone else because voices in your head tell you your Jesus is The One — even though your Jesus never said one single solitary word in any of the four gospels of the Bible about abortion or fertilized eggs being human. You’ve just gone and made it up about “life beginning at conception.” Jesus never said that. The little voice in your head said that, the same little voice that wants your grubby paws on women’s uteruses. You need help. Please get some help and leave the rest of us alone, Mr. Stupak and friends.Michael Moore: My Congressman, Bart Stupak, Has Neither a Uterus Nor a Brain (via veruca-assault)